Karma is your Love Language -From Dating to Marriage

Why can’t I find love? 

What if I never do?

Am I doing something wrong?

Does everyone else just… figure it out? 

Should I try harder?

Or stop trying altogether?

How do I even know if it’s real? 

What if I open up… and get hurt again? 

What if I never get to feel that kind of love?

If these questions keep you up at night, you probably already know that love isn’t always enough to sustain a relationship.

At some point, those fuzzy feelings fade, and what’s left are things like effort, compromise, and constantly gauging whether or not you feel appreciated.

What most people don’t realize is that this entire cycle, the spark, the struggle, the commitment, is written into your natal chart.

It’s part of your karma.

In this post, I’ll show you how to use your Vedic horoscope to uncover your real love language, not just how you express love, but how you block it, how you resist it, and most importantly, how you grow into it.

We’re going to explore a very specific part of your chart, and no, it’s not all about Venus. 

Sure, Venus is the planet of relationships. 

Where she is placed in your chart says a lot about what you’re drawn to, how you express affection, and the type of connection that feels natural to you.

But that’s not the whole story.

We’re going to examine the 7th house, the house of committed partnerships, the spouse, and long-term love. 

But before we go there… we need to take a step back.

Actually, two steps back.

Because in reality, love doesn’t start with commitment.

It starts with attraction. With desire. With romance. 

And then it moves through work, friction, and resistance before it ever becomes a real partnership.

That’s the 5th house. That’s the 6th house. And then comes the 7th.

See, your chart is just a map of time. It shows your subconscious patterns and cycles that shape your experiences.

So let’s start at the beginning, with the 5th house.

This is where love begins.

The spark. The butterflies. The feeling that someone just gets you.

It’s the honeymoon phase, attraction, charm, connection, excitement.

Of course, I should mention that in some cultures,  not every relationship starts with falling in love, and that’s okay. 

This pattern still shows how connection within you unfolds, whether the spark comes first or later.

Often, when I do client readings, the person has no idea how different the 5th house is from the other houses in the chart. 

It's a playful house where we have fun, create,  and imagine a world that we want to live in, which often means it's where we form blind spots. 

This is the house where you fall in love.

But falling in love... isn’t the same as staying in love.

The 5th house shows what draws you in.

Who you’re naturally attracted to.

And how do you express affection when everything still feels light and easy?

The planet ruling this house tells you what feels good in love.

What lights you up?

What kind of romance makes your heart say yes?

In astrology, there is a planetary court. 

Where the sun is the King, the Moon is the Queen, Mars is the Warrior, Mercury is the Prince, Jupiter is the Guru, Venus is the Princess, and Saturn is the Servant.

These are archetypes, personifying the planets, that help you see how their influence is in your chart. 

5th House: Romance and Attraction

This is where you fall in love. But love, as we know, isn’t enough.

Keywords: Love, desire, creativity, initial spark, dating, charm.

Significance: The 5th house shows who you are drawn to and how you express affection.

It’s the "honeymoon" phase—flirtation, connection, joy.

The planets here show what feels good in love and what excites you about others.

6th House: Work, Conflict, and Effort

This is where relationships are tested. It's the place most people avoid, yet it's the very passageway to long-term partnership.

Keywords: Effort, service, adjustment, irritation, friction, repair, routines.

Significance: This house symbolizes the effort required to maintain a relationship. It reveals:

The kind of problems or imbalances that arise

Where ego meets resistance

The sacrifices and small everyday actions are required to evolve love into a partnership.

Shadow Side: If one resists or avoids the lessons of the 6th house, they get "stuck" in cycles of failed or strained relationships.

7th House: Partnership and Commitment

This is where real love matures. Not just passion, but presence. Not just feelings, but vows.

Keywords: Agreement, compromise, reflection, spouse, legal bond, maturity.

Significance: This house shows the kind of partner you are ultimately meant to be with, not just who you desire (5th), but who you can grow with.

Ruler or Planets Here: Indicate what traits must be embraced for a committed, lasting union.

Putting It All Together

If you're attracting people (5th) but not committing (7th), look to your 6th house.

The 6th house reveals your pattern of resistance: Is it control? (Capricorn), Chaos? (Gemini), Overgiving? (Pisces), Judgment? (Virgo)

Your ability to honor the 6th house (do the work, not avoid the discomfort) is the bridge from dating to devotion.

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Aries Ascendant

5th House: Leo – Sun – You’re attracted to confidence, leadership, and bold expression

6th House: Virgo – Mercury – You resist commitment by overanalyzing or nitpicking the relationship

7th House: Libra – Venus – You seek harmony, beauty, and connection, but the need for perfection (6th) creates unnecessary friction

Your challenge is letting love be human. Focus on clear communication, not flaw detection.

Taurus Ascendant

5th House: Virgo – Mercury – You’re drawn to thoughtful, helpful, and intellectually stimulating people

6th House: Libra – Venus – You avoid relational work by people-pleasing or glossing over real issues

7th House: Scorpio – Mars – You crave emotional depth and intensity, but fear conflict or losing peace keeps you stuck

Your challenge is embracing discomfort. Real intimacy requires confrontation and transformation.

Gemini Ascendant

5th House: Libra – Venus – You’re drawn to charm, beauty, and romantic ideals

6th House: Scorpio – Mars – You avoid relational progress by being emotionally reactive or defensive

7th House: Sagittarius – Jupiter – You want a partner who shares your vision and growth mindset, but emotional control issues (6th) hinder this

Your challenge is emotional mastery. Learn to stay present through emotional intensity without shutting down.

Cancer Ascendant

5th House: Scorpio – Mars – You’re attracted to intensity, mystery, and emotional bonds

6th House: Sagittarius – Jupiter – You resist relational labor by relying on beliefs rather than direct action

7th House: Capricorn – Saturn – You want a reliable, long-term partner, but lack of practical follow-through (6th) delays growth

 Your challenge is commitment to the mundane. Belief must be backed by effort.

Leo Ascendant

5th House: Sagittarius – Jupiter – You’re drawn to playful, expansive, adventurous lovers

6th House: Capricorn – Saturn – You resist progress by avoiding emotional responsibility or becoming too rigid

7th House: Aquarius – Saturn – You want an evolved, conscious partner, but fear of vulnerability (6th) holds you back

Your challenge is maturity. Emotional consistency builds the future you dream of.

Virgo Ascendant

5th House: Capricorn – Saturn – You’re attracted to serious, structured, dependable people

6th House: Aquarius – Saturn – You avoid commitment by intellectualizing love or keeping it detached

7th House: Pisces – Jupiter – You long for spiritual union, but emotional avoidance (6th) keeps you disconnected

Your challenge is allowing softness. Let love be unstructured and felt, not just understood.

Libra Ascendant

5th House: Aquarius – Saturn – You’re attracted to unique, independent minds

6th House: Pisces – Jupiter – You avoid discomfort by idealizing, escaping hard conversations

7th House: Aries – Mars – You want a partner who takes initiative, but conflict-avoidance (6th) blocks it

Your challenge is facing emotional messiness without retreating. Love needs clarity, not perfection.

Scorpio Ascendant

5th House: Pisces – Jupiter – You’re drawn to dreamers, artists, and emotional depths

6th House: Aries – Mars – You resist partnership progress through impulsiveness or power struggles

7th House: Taurus – Venus – You desire stability and peace, but don’t slow down long enough to cultivate it

Your challenge is patience. Passion needs pacing to become peace.

Sagittarius Ascendant

5th House: Aries – Mars – You’re attracted to action, confidence, and bold energy

6th House: Taurus – Venus – You avoid deeper intimacy by clinging to comfort and surface-level harmony

7th House: Gemini – Mercury – You want a communicative partner, but resist the messy conversations that get you there

Your challenge is leaning into discomfort. Growth comes from what you’d rather ignore.

Capricorn Ascendant

5th House: Taurus – Venus – You’re drawn to grounded, sensual, committed lovers

6th House: Gemini – Mercury – You avoid progress through distraction, overthinking, or inconsistent communication

7th House: Cancer – Moon – You long for emotional connection, but fear expressing your own feelings

Your challenge is emotional fluency. Let words reflect what the heart truly feels.

Aquarius Ascendant

5th House: Gemini – Mercury – You’re attracted to intellect, wit, and curious minds

6th House: Cancer – Moon – You avoid progress through emotional shutdown or over-nurturing without boundaries

7th House: Leo – Sun – You want someone radiant and self-assured, but struggle with revealing your own vulnerability

Your challenge is balancing head and heart. Share emotion without losing your clarity.

Pisces Ascendant

5th House: Cancer – Moon – You’re drawn to softness, care, and emotional resonance

6th House: Leo – Sun – You resist commitment by making it all about your identity or needs

7th House: Virgo – Mercury – You want mutual understanding and shared rhythm, but ego (6th) prevents true collaboration

Your challenge is humility. Love grows when you listen, and it's not all about you.